Your ego might be sitting at the wheel, driving your talks into crashing. We were discussing some questions by the end of the previous 30-Mins. Your ego has a list of questions and filters for your life experiences, like it’s boss, because it kinda is.
YOU have likely given shape to a certain image of yourself. That’s the image you want to open and close with. Is that you, though?
I think it is, but how do you see it, and does it work for you?
I find my ego has played its part in everything I’ve ever been a part of and, without going crazy on analyzing, I thank it, but wish it had never happened -that’s over-wishing, and it probably makes no sense. I wish that on everyone as well.
What is to be hoped for here? I don´t hope for no ego in conversation because chickens can’t talk to pigs if they’re both using their mother tongue. Let’s say you become so good at identifying your ego that you can eliminate it when you set yourself to do it. How are you going to avoid crashing into someone else’s ego?
Maybe your ego is quiet, but if other participants in the talk have theirs very much on…
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…see where I’m going?
We usually need a sense of common ground to converse
We don’t need to agree on a topic, but we need to want to agree on a topic. Egoless talk chooses that trail. The opposite is not as nice.
I’ve done a lot of “next time” and I trust it. Next time you talk, observe who you are as an ego-driven piece of walking-talking meat. It really starts with reading about it and becoming aware of it. You just did that part, partially.
If I were giving myself advice about this
I would say, “yeah, you gotta get yourself informed about this topic more”. Can you spot your ego and its manifestations in your daily interactions?
Yes? What do you do about it?
No? Are you fully happy? No? How can you spot it?
Statistically, it will be a NO. Get yourself busy. 30 mins it was.